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The World Cup Is Showing Us What Racism Does to a Body
A therapist’s perspective on the racist abuse surrounding this tournament, what research actually shows about racism as a physiological injury, and what genuinely helps, on the pitch and everywhere else the cameras never go. In February 2006, Samuel Eto’o stopped playing football in the middle of a match. He had scored twice for Barcelona…
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The Age When Life Feels Heaviest (It’s Not a Coincidence)
A therapist’s perspective on why life often feels hardest between the mid-thirties and early fifties, what decades of research on the happiness curve actually shows, and why trying to fix your happiness is usually what deepens the dip. Nothing happened. That is the strange part. No crisis, no loss, no event you could point…
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You’re Not Too Sensitive You’re a Thermometer
A therapist’s perspective on why you absorb your partner’s moods, what emotional contagion does inside a relationship, and how to set your own temperature without taking over the weather. You know the feeling before they say a word. Your partner walks in, and something in the air changes. The way the keys land on…
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Recovering From Burnout Takes Longer Than Anyone Admits
A therapist’s perspective on what recovery from burnout actually looks like, why it is rarely the clean return to normal people expect, and how to come back to a life that fits, written for anyone who collapsed and is trying to find their way upright again. By the time she came to see me,…
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Remote Work Didn’t Fix Burnout It Hid It
A therapist and organizational consultant’s perspective on why working from home did not cure burnout the way we were promised, what actually drives the exhaustion, and what individuals and organizations can do about it. Working from home was supposed to fix this. No commute. No fluorescent lights. No manager hovering. You could work in…
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Your Scars Aren’t Flaws They Are Gold
A therapist’s perspective on healing trauma, why the goal was never to erase what happened to you, and what a centuries-old Japanese art form can teach us about becoming whole again. ”I feel broken.” I hear this often. From people who have survived things no one should have to survive. From people carrying shame…
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The Skills No One Teaches You About Lasting Love
A therapist’s perspective on why what draws two people together is rarely what keeps them together, and the two skills that research shows predict lasting love more than chemistry or compatibility. What makes you fall in love is not what makes love last. Think about the early days of a relationship. The pull. The…
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The Burnout Question Every Leader Should Be Asking
A therapist and organizational consultant’s perspective on why most workplace burnout interventions don’t work, what leaders are missing when they treat burnout as a personal resilience problem, and the question every leader needs to start asking instead. Most leaders ask the wrong question about burnout. They ask: How do we help our people become…
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It’s Not Imposter Syndrome It’s a Belonging Problem
A therapist’s perspective on why so many high-functioning people feel like they’re faking it, why the original framing of imposter syndrome misses what’s actually going on, and what changes when you stop pathologizing yourself for not feeling at home in spaces that weren’t built for you. The first time I heard the term ”imposter…
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You Don’t Need to Earn the Right to Rest
A therapist’s perspective on why rest feels dangerous for high-achievers, what happens when you’ve been running on productivity for years, and how to reclaim rest without turning it into another task to optimize. I used to answer emails while making coffee. Not just glancing at my phone. Actually responding. Drafting replies in my head…